Pornography Addiction Cycle


The “acting out” (engaging in an activity that you consciously didn’t want to engage in) usually starts out with a trigger, which is interpreted by your brain at a subconscious level, and results in a strong emotion, such as excitement. Only then do you get a thought in your conscious brain! Remember it is written  “Do not conform to the standards of the world but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” 

Think about it! In our society, most of the people hold a belief that we are primarily motivated by our thinking. This, however, is not entirely true! In fact, as much as 90% of our daily behaviors are motivated by our subconscious brains. Reliance on a higher power, for me Jesus Christ has helped me renew my subconscious mind a lot.

To make things worse, once our body begins a chemical response, it overrides our cognitive ability. Meaning, we still are aware of what is going on, but unable to make an accurate, rational evaluation of our behavior and upcoming consequences.

Immediately after the internal chemical release, our body begins to change (we will talk more about it in upcoming sections). This really is our last line of defense.

The second thought is our last chance to realize what is happening and to take emergency actions to save ourselves (we will talk a lot more about this as well).

If we were not able to break the cycle, chances are we will end up giving in, and engaging in the behavior.

After the “acting out” part is complete, our brain goes off the auto-pilot, and we are back to our normal selves. This is when we are usually able to look at the situation logically, and realize what has happened.

A common reaction to this realization is to feel intense negative emotions, such as guilt and self-hatred. This approach, however, only strengthens our addiction. It keeps us from taking constructive action.

Remember, we do bad things, but we are not bad people!

Did you notice that I skipped one of the items on the list – vulnerable time? Mark Kastleman, founder of Candeo Can, came up with an acronym BLASTed, which stands for: Bored, Burned Out, Lonely, Anxious, Afraid, Angry, Stressed, and Tired.

Another acronym that is commonly used in the 12 steps community is HALT: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired.

During the vulnerable times, our conscious brain loses the ability to see things clearly. That is when our subconscious brain is more likely to take over. And we already know where this is going to take us.

You can avoid vulnerable times by beginning to take good care of yourself. Simple things like getting reading the word of God, praying, plenty of sleep, eating properly, drinking enough water, and journaling to de-clutter your brain can go a long way. In the future, we are going to talk a lot more about things that you can do to bring about peace and calmness into your life.

via Pornography Addiction Cycle.

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  1. October 15, 2011 at 10:07 pm

    I found this post to be quite informative and comprehensive. Seeing the addiction cycle at the top and studying it, I had to wholeheartedly agree.

    I am also glad you used the HALT acronym. I have found it to be very true.

    I suppose the hard question relates to when an addiction comes out of a biological need. No one is hard wired to biologically need alcohol or heroin (atleast not at first) but when it comes to sexual functioning it’s a different story. Abraham Maslow lists it twice on his hierarchy of human needs.

    Answering that question would really help.

  2. October 24, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    Hey,
    Thanks for the comment. I also found it helpful, its so true, you got to know the root cause of the thing that make you fall.

  3. Arleen
    July 12, 2012 at 6:17 am

    Heard it in radio hope fm n felt I should stop watching . Last night I crashed all porn CDs that I had n prayed about the spirit to go. Am feeling free n I can now have breakthrough prayers. Thnx for this article God bless u soo much

    • July 12, 2012 at 9:51 am

      Arleen,
      Glory to God…I would recommend to you the course from http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com called way of purity. As you may have learnt from the pornography addiction cycle article, you need to develop another foundation for you to beat that cycle. Way of purity (a 60day purity challenge) is one of the courses I highly recommend as it has the 3 most important tools of beating sexual addiction, Accountability, Solid bible principles and radical practicle actions for you.

      Here is a snipet of the lesson from day 2, http://old.settingcaptivesfree.com/home/audio-pdf/WP/Purity2Final.pdf. God is faithful to get you out of this bondage.

      Ibrahim Gathungu

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